BETWEEN NEED & SIN; CONFESSION OF A WOMAN Seeking my advise!

herewith other confession letter for you:

BETWEEN NEED & SIN

God create ppl to have spouse unfortunately some ppl doesn't have it...because die,divorce or other reasons...the story is about widow woman;she doesn't have husband(of course because she's a widow)but she need sometimes sex activity which is for MAN(male)can do it by himself with some ways like mastrubation or other.In this case woman are different that she need it someone who can help her to do the job,well some woman can do with their finger this is the different woman..

For remarry she hasn't get any plan yet,but she has a boy friend...and the BF can't marry her because his already married(he has belong to other woman)some MAN like a fooling arround,we dont need to discuss it and the woman knows him he is a friend(could be BF)and i guess the knows the position of that woman thats why he want to be a voulenter for her (he he he)

1.Does she can do sex with him(without legal marry)of course in all religioun are not allow(forbiden)

2.But she need sex after such a long year stop it...

3.She's human being which is still have blood,feeling and she hasn't became an angel yet..

Actually i know some advise for her but i believe your advise more better than me..so dear kindly to give some advise or your share to my friend..

thanking you for your kindness...


------MY ADVISE---------------
well dear...this is even tough than my friends situation.

I do agree with you that we are NOT angles and made of blood and flesh and have feelings since GOD/ALLAH created us with certain desires and needs that must be fulfilled such the need to eat, drink, dres, sleep...etc and one of these needs that GOD/ALLAH had emraces within us is the need for intimacy and love and its translation into SEX LLAH had emraces within us is the need for intimacy and love and its translation into SEX.

I will be advising from where i stand. that is to say from my relegious background and cultural teachings which is not differemt from other relegions since all are from GOD/ALLAH. However, the only differemce of our relegion is that it allows the man (ig he is a muslim)to marry another even if its in secret if both cares not to hurt the first wife feelings and without further obligations to the second if the main reason is to fulfill her intimate needs, wich are both better off than doing it otherwise.

What makes this situation solvable is that the first wife knew of their relation and its acceptableto her as long as her husband is happy (i hope i understood your friend situation, if otherwise, please correct me). Well in this case, you both could marry in secret without any obligations on each other (financially...etc) to safe guard the interest of the first family and this is common in our culture and its working fine and everybody is happy and satisfied. It needs merely a papaer signed by both and the signature of two witnesses before GOD/ALLAH if both are adults and decide for them selfs which is unlike a new version lady where her parents approval is required. By this no need to go to goverment officials which they may reject and also to avoid being exposed.

However, if he is from other relegions its something your friend needs to think about and take the responsibility of her actions and be ready to face GOD/ALLAH with a good execuse.

Thank you for sharing your friends case with me and seeking my advise and I hope i managed to understand your case and give an advise that is some what safe and legal.



Best Regards,